One of the great tugs of war that has existed between family members since the beginning of time – or at least since the invention of school pictures – is between kids and parents about who chooses their haircut. For kids, choosing their own haircut can be an exercise in demonstrating their own independence. Parents, conversely, have developed their own image of what their child should look like and can have a hard time letting that go.
Well, parents, our team at Lil’ Snippers believes we’re the best hair salon for kids’ in Vancouver, WA because we want to empower kids to look and feel their best. For parents, that occasionally means agreeing to let your child select their own hairstyle, even if you might not think it’s their best look. (Even if you don’t like their decision, you’ll still have the opportunity to pull out photos when they’re older to embarrass remind them about what they once thought was “cool.”)
Unconvinced? We understand. That’s why we have a few compelling reason why parents should let their kids select their own hairstyles when old enough.
It Helps Teach Self Identity
Letting your child select his or her own haircut may seem like a small thing, but when kids have the opportunity to pick what they want to wear or how their hair looks it helps to establish and reinforce the concept that they have ownership over their bodies and appearance. Being comfortable about how they look is something many people struggle with throughout their entire lifetimes. But the more confidence kids build in themselves when young the more comfortable they feel about themselves when older.
It Teaches That Their Decisions Should Be Respected
The one word most kids get used to hearing is no. No, you can’t do that. No, you can’t play that way. No, you can’t eat that. While most times a child hears no it’s out of a desire to protect, either from danger or from concepts kids can’t yet fully understand.
However, kids also hear no in subtler ways. How often do you hear kids say something like, “I want to play with Batman.” Only to be told, “No, you don’t. Here, take Wonder Woman.” Or maybe they say, “I really like this blue shirt. It’s my favorite,” and an adult says in response, “Are you sure? Don’t you like the green one better?”
Kids have their desires questioned all of the time. They get used to hearing that they don’t know what they really want, what’s really best for them, or that they’re not old enough to make that decision. Letting your child pick something a trivial as their haircut is a great way to introduce and enforce the idea that what he or she wants should be respected. When parents give kids the opportunity to say “I want my hair to look like this” and then respect that desire, they begin to discover that it’s okay to want something.
It Encourages Self-Expression
Developing a unique sense of style is important for a child. It might be cute to dress up siblings in identical outfits when younger, but the older kids get the more they will start to rebel from looking and dressing them same as everyone else in the family.
The classic cliché of rebellious teens dying their hair green or getting facial piercings just to annoy their parents is born out of the idea for the need of self-expression. By helping to embrace your kids individual desire to look the way they want when younger will only help to embolden their own sense of style now and later in life.
It Helps Form of Sense of Trust Between Parent and Child
When you let kids make a decision about their appearance, it helps to create a sense of trust between parent and child. You send the message to your child that not only do you trust their decision making process, but that they are the top expert on themselves. This, in turn, allows your child to know you trust them, which makes it easier for them to trust you. A win-win for everybody involved.